REFLECTION BACK-FORWARD IN TIME
LIVING WHILE RECORDING ELUSIVE MOMENT
I find myself piqued to quill by a questioning post on cousin Anjana‘s blog… was the bride of the wedding which we went to India to celebrate…
How much do you want to document your experiences ? Will recording them help you make better sense of your own evolution ? Has it helped you evolve in the future ? How much do you
How much nostalgia is healthy and appropriate for you ?
I’ve kept a rather regular journal for most of thirty-five years, beginning seriously when at 30 I embarked on a rare journey of rich exploratory travel into a new period of my life.
While there are several other small volumes with some few pages written during my late teens, such attention was obviously short lived… only beginning dreams toward this time of my turning 30, leaving Denver, evolving toward a less urban, more solitary mode. I was ready to bring new maturity to the process.
What began as a typical road-travel diary came to include the I-Ching readings I made for contemplation during this extended solitary road trip. I was in a Jungian stage of individuation. I was working with an already well developed ego & had the time to indulge myself in deeper work, much of it dancing out of my involvement with a play therapist named Austin Delaney, making two dusty drives down to his remote retreat in Baja to spend time sifting & soaking in sandbox symbology.
My use of words like “play” & “dancing” for describing such adventure of my life began then & I celebrate that they still are some of my most preferred & useful verbs.
I now have a trunk tightly packed with the collection of bound volumes accumulated over these years, plus another matching trunk of photocopied letters written back when I tried to share similar writing with family & friends. I consider these papers part of my journal.
All these pages are handwritten, usually in the india ink from the rapidograph technical pens to which I was so long addicted… reassured by the sense of permanence that ink suggested. My fingers became almost as permanently stained. Flying with one of them was quite an adventure, as they often reacted to the changing cabin pressure by leaking or even burping exuberantly… I dedicated myself to the ritual of holding the uncapped pen bedded in a handkerchief during takeoff & landing to prevent the cap from filling with that dangerous black to ooze out when next I wanted to write. A handkerchief which long lived inside the book’s covers became an archive of marks & blots from years of grooming the nibs of those tetchy writing instruments!
I’ve had sleek leather slip covers
I became quite serious about my journal & perhaps, even obsessed!
i developed the calligraphic block style of my handwriting from my father’s curious mix of caps & lower case handwriting & my art student’s fascination with the rather standard draftsman’s block style & those old speedball pens we used for making posters in high school. I lettered myriad signs for the department store where I worked during High School. I abandoned cursive when my handwriting was quite young, as can be seen if I try to use that form now. After years’ habit & development, my handwriting has developed a strong familiarity as part of my identity & even a certain fame.
Long before any sort of writing style with the ideas words can convey, I was developing a sense of how they should look… indeed, that is no small part of how I think with words now. Committing one’s everyday thoughts to such ink invites fastidious forethought… even as the first mandate is to capture the moment.
I wanted it to look good as well as being legible. At first I tried the notion that each page was a calendar day, but the accumulation waste of paper quickly became evident as I would almost never finish writing that much in 24 hours… even as I attempted using the blank trail to guilt-trip myself into more diligence.
I began to read the unwritten tales of some pages… analyzing my state or mood by the slant of the lines. I sometimes tried to project my life through it, making affirmations. That was as iffy in ink as it is in the ephemeral world… but I appreciate the clarity of idea that notion teaches: “Be careful what you wish for…”
I studied my calligraphy, practicing nuance to reveal or disguise the word’s wells & walls, to enhance one glyph’s relationship to its neighbors. Early on I needed to consider whether I would draw in my journal, or reserve it for words alone. I love that the proper verb for making an Icon is “to write” rather than “to paint”… so I appreciate how drawings can be “literal”, but I decided that the obviously more messy process of drawing was better kept out of these pages… I maintain other books for that kind of thinking. Still my love of symbols & glyphs required some visual notes.
I played with my journal. I studied myself inside it. I was often literally living it.
Over the years the questions about to whom & for what I’m making all these words has been omnipresent & never quite answered. Writing for oneself must be what brings one to writing in the first place. Before writing what one wants to say, one must say/write those things to oneself. God knows I often sermonized & still can. I veer not enough toward poetry. I write dialogue between parts of myself & with a second person, trying to clarify what I do not say so easily in actual conversation.
For all my lack of it, I practice to simplify & clarify… realizing that is a life’s work. I long wrote in curiously punctuated
Because I wanted to watch the accumulation of words representing myself in ways unlike, if parallel to, my visual work, this archive has often been useful to help me see myself more honestly. As I write toward Anjana’s questions about the values of the journal processes to explain one’s experience, I feel my own sense of those values. I’m obviously still doing it, so I believe in it even as i must suppose I will never know the end of its story. I’ve heard stories of the destruction of journals in apocalyptic ritual or fits of pique & fear. I’m happier never yet to have had one of those.
I’ve always had faith this trunk of books would find its own journey into the unknown after me, my gift to the plague & blessing of words humans have unleashed as history. Accepting as well that they might not make it beyond the next flood
I do occasionally go back to read in the writing, especially when I’m trying to remember some detail of time or relationship… but I’ve learned that I often do not write what I would want to read later, being so busy with the doing that I did not have time or presence of mind to write much at all in such memorable times… I trusted to unsupported memory itself the very things I later wish I hadn’t forgotten. To my frequent dismay I find boring menus or guest lists rather than the spark of excitement I want to recover. So the process is inevitably flawed, or at least, incomplete.
I have found it useful & fun to read from my old journals to someone aloud sharing selected notions of my earlier life. I see change & growth. I see ever old habits & ideas cycling new through the sense of time which has days quite full of words & those left inexplicably equally blank.